The search for happiness is universal. It is the driving force behind our actions and decisions. We seek it in relationships, career success, material possessions, and even in spiritual pursuits. However, as the dialogue between the questioner and Maharaj in the text above reveals, the happiness we seek in external things is fleeting and temporary. True happiness, according to Maharaj, can only be found within oneself.
Maharaj emphasizes that the mind is inherently restless and prone to wander. Therefore, attempting to find happiness through external means is futile. The mind will always find new desires to pursue, new fears to avoid, and new problems to solve. Maharaj suggests that to find lasting happiness, we must shift our focus beyond the mind.
The questioner then asks how to make the mind steady. Maharaj replies that an unsteady mind cannot make itself steady. Instead, we must refuse all thoughts except one: the thought “I am.” The mind may resist in the beginning, but with patience and perseverance, it will eventually yield and become quiet. Once we are quiet, things will begin to happen spontaneously and quite naturally, without any interference on our part.
Alternatively, Maharaj suggests that we can live our lives as they come, alertly and watchfully. We should allow everything to happen as it happens and do natural things the natural way. We should embrace the suffering and the rejoicing that life brings. This, too, is a way to find happiness.
The questioner then wonders if he can simply live his life, marry, have children, run a business, and be happy. Maharaj replies that he may or may not be happy; it should be taken in stride. True happiness cannot be found in things that change and pass away. Pleasure and pain alternate inexorably. Happiness comes from the self and can be found in the self only. If we find our real self (swarupa), all else will come with it.
The questioner then asks why his real self, which is peace and love, is so restless. Maharaj explains that it is not our real being that is restless, but its reflection in the mind appears restless because the mind is restless. The mind is like the reflection of the moon in the water stirred by the wind. The wind of desire stirs the mind, and the “me,” which is a reflection of the Self in the mind, appears changeful. But these ideas of movement, of restlessness, pleasure, and pain are all in the mind. The Self stands beyond the mind, aware, but unconcerned.
The questioner then asks how to reach the Self. Maharaj replies that we are the Self, here and now. We should leave the mind alone, stand aware and unconcerned, and we will realize that to stand alert but detached, watching events come and go, is an aspect of our real nature. The aspects of the Self are infinite in number. Realizing one will lead to realizing all.
The questioner then asks Maharaj for guidance on gaining peace. Maharaj asks, “For what do you need peace?” The questioner replies, “To be happy.” Maharaj then asks, “Are you not happy now?” The questioner replies, “No, I am not.” Maharaj then asks, “What makes you unhappy?” The questioner responds, “I have what I don’t want, and want what I don’t have.”
Maharaj suggests that he inverts his desires: wants what he has and does care not for what he doesn’t have. The questioner then says he wants what is pleasant and doesn’t want what is painful. Maharaj asks, “How do you know what is pleasant and what is not?” The questioner replies, “From past experience, of course.”

Meet Krishnaprasath Krishnamoorthy, a Yoga, Vedanta, and Hindu spiritual aspirant with a passion for sharing the ancient wisdom and practices of Sanatana Dharma. With 20 years of experience on the spiritual path, Krishnaprasath Krishnamoorthy has a deep understanding of the physical, mental, and spiritual benefits of Yoga, Astrology, Vedanta, and Meditation.